The Secrets to a Awesome Relationship/Marriage

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Comment by Tiphany Burrell on December 31, 2008 at 3:55pm

You know, my husband and I have been together all of our adult lives...and because we grew up together we have been through some stuff.

And as Marriage Ministry leaders, we have often found ourselves working with couples to better understand each other, to communicate better, to spend more time together...to function as one. But lately, the Holy Spirit has impressed the need for each spouse to know how to be single...it sounds weird, but if we learn to focus on being one with God, the connection that we are trying to build or reinforce with our spouse will become perfected.

As we become more of who God created us to be, we become more of the husband or wife that our spouse needs...God created me for my husband and He created my husband with me in mind...so anything that I long for, only my husband has and vice versa.

Have you ever gone out to eat and ordered a Coke, but since the only served Pepsi that's what they brought you. You didn't notice anything when your drink arrived, but when you tasted it...YUCK!!! not Coke...

Not that Pepsi is awful, but it is simply not Coke...some people really do like Pepsi...but not Coke drinkers...when they are thirsty they NEED Coke and only Coke will satisfy them.

Same thing with our marriage, when you are who God created you to be, you and your spouse will totally satisfy each other in every way...

Comment by Beverly Barabin Bourgeois on November 8, 2008 at 10:14pm

Vergis and I have been married 2 1/2 wonderful years (and 6 horrible years). I thank God (literally) that the last year and a half have been WONDERFUL! Since we endured the 6 horrible years, it made our bond tighter than ever. I have learned that when you remain faithful to God's instruction, He will bless you RICHLY!

Comment by Kelly James on November 3, 2008 at 10:48pm

Marriage seems to be very contagious right now! What a wonderful thing.

Alicia and I celebrate 4 years of marriage in June. What is your anniversary date? Do we have a 5? 10? 20?

Comment by Alicia James on November 3, 2008 at 8:03pm

I figured I should probably join this group, since my other half created it!
Well, I think the one that keeps a marriage going is first realizing that it is not a movie, it's not always a fairy-tale, and sometimes can be more than a full-time job. Once you understand that, you begin to work at it!
Love you hon! (wink! wink!)

Comment by karen zellers sevier on October 21, 2008 at 2:17pm

Hey Thanks Kelly, this is good!

Comment by Jessica C. Henderson on October 20, 2008 at 11:42pm

I do believe people forget that Marriage is a covenant. It is a covenant to God. One night my cousin and I were talking about marriage. I told her that just because you have child with someone it does not mean you have to marry them. I know that alot of our parents and grandparents think this way. My own grandmother believed this. She told her girls that you wanted you children to have a name. My grandmother had 4 daughters and 3 of them married the father of their children. My mother did not. I think it was because my grandmother died the summer before I was born. One of my aunts married a man that abused her during their marriage. My other aunt divorced after 20 years and my other aunt was widowed. Saying all this, you have to be careful who you marry. Just because they look good, say the right things, or have a "good" job, does not mean you marry them. That decision cannot be taken lightly like Valeta said.

Comment by Valeta on October 17, 2008 at 11:12am

What I know for sure: Marriage is a covenant that cannot be taken lightly. It must be entered into knowing that reciprocity is not necessarily a condition. Marriage must be a consideration before you fall in love. Love, or what we define as love, is often blind; wedding plans blind folks even more. Ask yourself early on in a relationship: what would it be like to be married to this
person? Too many times we marry folks who are simply not marriage material and then we wonder what went wrong. You can love a lot of people, but you certainly don't have to make a covenant with them. And finally, laughter covers a multitude of troubles. Life is short. Some things are sad and funny at the same time. Choose to laugh. Create opportunities for laughter. Read crazy emails together. Tickle the kids and each other. Go to the park and play on the equipment. And at the end of the day, thank God for the person you married and pray that you will always be able to forgive the person that burned the toast this morning or forgot to pick up the dry cleaning or spent the last $5.00 in the cookie jar on an Oprah magazine. Amen.

Comment by T Jae on October 1, 2008 at 11:27pm

Kelly, I think this group is a great idea. I hope some of our more "seasoned" members will drop in with great advice.